QUOTES & POEMS
My name is Diane and I am a SURVIVOR of Traumatic Domestic Abuse. I am here to let you know you are not crazy, and there is nothing that you did wrong to incur the abuse you have gone through.
A Prayer of forgiveness………….
I think about you every day
I wish I could say it was in a positive way
To have made me feel so unsure of me
And believing that I am the worst that could be
You lured me in with promises and things that I believed
When in fact all you were looking to do was take and deceive
I think about you every day
I wish I could say it was in a positive way
I have learned that I was faithful to you and myself
And watched you debase me and put me on a shelf
You saw me sinking and did not care
You pushed me deeper and deeper into despair
I think about you every day
I wish I could say it was in a positive way
I tried everything I could to pull myself up
I told myself it was my fault and to just chin up
You watched me struggle and you watched me fall
You stood by delighted and lied about caring for me at all
I think about you every day
I wish I could say it was in a positive way
One day I said I am worth so much more
I realized you cut me to my very core
I learned the hard way it had nothing to do with me
But instead it had to do with you and where you needed to be
You had to feel powerful and very very strong
And it didn’t matter who you hurt as you rolled along
I think about you every day
I wish I could say it was in a positive way
By listening to you and believing completely in what you said
I almost convinced myself that I should not be here, but instead
I think about you every day
I wish I could say it was in a positive way
For me to end my struggle I came to understand
For my sake and my peace of mind I had to take a stand
I packed up what there was of you in my mind
And moved it to a place that I didn’t need to find
I think about you every day
And now I can say in a positive way
Because of you I can truly put our past behind
And say honestly I forgive you for my own peace of mind
Author~Diane Storey
BEGINNING TODAY
Beginning today, I will no longer worry about yesterday.
It is in the past and the past will never change.
Only I can change by choosing to do so.
Beginning today, I will no longer worry about tomorrow.
Tomorrow will always be there, waiting for me to make the most of it. But I cannot make the most of tomorrow without first making the most of today.
Beginning today, I will look in the mirror and I will see a person worthy of my respect and admiration.
This capable person looking back at me is someone I enjoy spending time with and someone I would like to get to know better.
Beginning today, I will cherish each moment of my life.
I value this gift bestowed upon me in this world and I will unselfishly share this gift with others.
I will use this gift to enhance the lives of others.
Beginning today, I will take a moment to step off the beaten path and to revel in the mysteries I encounter.
I will face challenges with courage and determination.
I will overcome what barriers there may be which hinder my quest for growth and self-improvement.
Beginning today, I will take life one day at a time, one step at a time.
Discouragement will not be allowed to taint my positive self-image, my desire to succeed or my capacity to love.
Beginning today, I walk with renewed faith in human kindness.
Regardless of what has gone before, I believe there is hope for a brighter and better future.
Beginning today, I will open my mind and my heart.
I will welcome new experiences. I will meet new people.
I will not expect perfection from myself nor anyone else: perfection does not exist in an imperfect world.
But I will applaud the attempt to overcome human foibles.
Beginning today, I am responsible for my own happiness and I will do things that make me happy . . .
admire the beautiful wonders of nature, listen to my favourite music, pet a kitten or a puppy, soak in a bubble bath . . .
Pleasure can be found in the most simple of gestures.
Beginning today, I will learn something new; I will try something different; I will savour all the various flavors life has to offer me. I will change what I can and the rest I will let go.
I will strive to become the best me I can possibly be.
Beginning today.
And every day.
Author~Penny Whit
The narcissist did not pick you at random.
You were not chosen by chance. They followed a system. They followed a plan. It was a conscious decision. They singled you out. They purposefully selected you as the object of their attention. Many victims believe that narcissists target weak people. They believe narcissists go after people who are not strong enough to withstand pressure. But that’s not completely true. They target people who are easy to manipulate. But they also want their targets to be strong.
Narcissists target people based on superficial things. They pick people who are physically attractive. They pick people who are powerful, successful and important. Because they know they’re going to get a lot of supply from tearing someone like that down. They’re not going to get much out of tearing a person down who isn’t that attractive. And doesn’t have any money or success. Because then there’s nothing for them to sabotage or destroy. There’s nothing to fuel them to take down that type of person. Because they’re already down on their luck.
Which is why there must be something on the surface that attracted the narcissist to you. And once they’ve gained access to your life, the progress they make depends on your boundaries. If you have weak boundaries, they’re going to deceive you. And they’re going to take you down. Regardless of what position you have in life. It doesn’t matter if you’re a doctor or a lawyer. It doesn’t matter if you’re a war veteran. If you don’t have boundaries, they will take advantage of you.
They target people who have recently left a relationship. They target people who are going through a difficult time. Because then it makes you more susceptible to the abuse. You’re more willing to tolerate it. And then they will change you at a core level. By the end of the relationship, you will be a completely different person. Because they strip you of everything that makes you who you are. They strip you of your indispensable qualities. But it’s not because you were weak.
They target strong people who are in a vulnerable state. And then they exploit them while they’re in that state. While they’re still able to take advantage of them. But the narcissist will not let you blame them. Because they see it as though you gave them the opportunity. You let them do it. You let it happen. You made it a possibility. In their minds, you didn’t have to tolerate it. You didn’t have to stay with them. They see it as though you ruined your own life. Because if you didn’t accept that kind of treatment, nothing would have happened to you. That’s just how narcissists think. They don’t see it as though they’re ruining your life. They see it as though you’re doing it to yourself. As though you are the cause of anything that happens to you. Which they then use to justify their actions. Which is why the longer you stay with them, you start seeing more and more abuse. It gets worse and worse. Until you start to lose yourself. Because you’re giving everything to the narcissist. But there’s no point complaining about the narcissist to the narcissist. Because they don’t care.
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